I know it was because I was walking around outside of Vroman's Bookstore. There were condoms everywhere. It was a beautiful sight. Yet something was missing. Not enough info for the Boomers. Cuz, you know we ain't gonna stop with a little snow on the rafters.
With the right amount of imagination that rocking chair can be a sensual enhancement tool.
True, peri-menopause and menopause might have you up against the ropes. It is all you can do not to kill something. I say make love, not war. The libido is not dead, just getting reconfigured. One of these days a good looking chunk of opportunity is gonna walk up and say "Hi."
It will be all you can do to say "Yes." "No." or "You are serious, right?"
A Pause for the Cause
Step 1 - Have 21st Century Condoms
If all systems are go and before you get to shucking your clothes you need to ask yourself is there is a condom in the house, car or purse. I like to reduce complexity. I have condoms. Specially after today cuz I picked up a few condoms. And some lube. Water based, of course.
There are things that do not age well. Condoms is one of them. They expire. Make sure you have current stock within reach.
Step 2 - Dude Has To Wear It
You can help him put it on, make it worth his while but that condom has to be in place before you crank up Boogie Nights. This is not negotiable. This is about your life and how long you get to live it.
Step 2a - There are Female Condoms
Really, if the guy refuses to wear a condom and he won't get tested why are you with him?
Yeah, I know. Ok. If this is just a hit it and quit and you really want to do this with this reckless inconsiderate man then you need to use a female condom.
This is a non-sexual demonstration of how to insert the female condom:
It is a one use device. No recycling here. You can use it for the front door or the back porch however you have to use a new condom for each orifice. Female condoms are much more expensive but you are so worth it if you cannot get cooperation from your stud muffin.
Step 3 - You Might Have to Lube the Groove
We change. Body chemistry is no longer in sync with immediate desire. We may need help to ease the points of entry. There are all kind of lube products. Some contain icky petroleum chemicals. Bad for condoms, worse for your body.
When possible, go natural but not Crisco. Seriously, I know it was the thing back in the day but No, leave that in the bad old days. This is future tense.
You need to read the label to make sure the lube is compatible with the condom and with your body. There is a video about Green/Organic lube at Treehugger.com. Another source is the product line of Good Clean Love.
For more info:
- Carnal Nation post on How to Put On A Condom
- Center for AIDS Prevention and Studies Fact Sheet for Adults Over Fifty
- Mayo Clinic on Sexual Health and Aging
- National HIV Awareness Days from U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services
- Planned Parenthood information about female condoms
- Third Age Guide to middle age and senior sexuality
- Violet Blue has a Safe Sex Page with a free download of her Modern Safe Sex Guide. Violet's web site is not safe for work but there are things a person could learn from Violet.
In the meantime, in the spirit of the boogie put a lid on it.